Why I'm Ready to Leave My 20s

I turned the big 3-0 this weekend. I know, I know— I look 23 ;)

And while most people assumed I'd be bummed about this birthday—I'm actually glad to see my 20s go. I'm okay with 30s NOT being the new 20s. (or whatever that phrase is).

Yes, my 20s were full of adventure and fun, but they were also super messy—full of growing pains, SO MUCH transition, selfishness, insecurities and plenty of mistakes. From graduating college, working and figuring out how to be a “grown up", to living on my own, singleness, and experiencing what I like to call the “Quarter Life Crisis.” In essence,  I was trying to figure out who I was, what I wanted to do with my life, and what I wanted to be about. The twenties, for me, were hard.

Obviously, not everything about them were all bad. I actually really loved my late twenties— I met and married my husband, moved to Texas, and became a mom. But all of those things were still not the easiest due to my young, selfish heart. The Lord had to beat me over the head many a time, but He was so gracious in that He grew me a ton in those years. I learned a lot about waiting on the Lord, about how to serve and respect my husband, about selflessness, about His provision, and mostly that HE is what I’m about. I’ve learned to be comfortable in my own skin and that life really isn't all about ME.  

And while I have traded in my cute, sleek sedan for a big, fat mini van.

And my size 4 body for a stretch-marked belly and “fuller” physique.

And my nights of "going out” till the wee hours for nights filled with reading Goodnight Moon over and over, trying to stay up to watch Parenthood till a whopping 9pm, and waking up at the crack of dawn.

I wouldn’t trade any of it.

So no, I’m not bummed about turning 30. I’m ready for a few extra wrinkles, a couple gray hairs, and hopefully a little more wisdom. 

NOTE: Now, obviously I still have a TON to learn and am re-learning old lessons frequently. And please don't be offended if you're a mature 25 year old rocking your 20s. I wish I had! 
And to the gals in a Quarter Life Crisis: I was NOT in gospel centered community for most of my early 20s. I selfishly chose to be about and serve myself— and for that reason I was super lonely and usually depressed. If I could give any advice, I would say find like-minded community that is about Jesus and serving Him. Plug in somewhere—a church, a ministry, volunteering to tutor or serve. I promise it will make all the difference. There is so much purpose and sweetness in those years that you don’t want to wish away, I promise. It is hard, but it doesn't have to be a Quarter Life Crisis!


  1. You and I almost share the same birthday! Mine was on the 11th. Great post. Great advice.

  2. Welcome to the 30s, friend! I enjoyed this post so much. I can say I felt the same way about 25 and felt a bit of relief when I saw 30. Now I have the problem of not being able to remember how old I actually am...

  3. The thirties are awesome. Your going to love this new stage in your life. I've been in my thirties for eight years now and I don't want to leave them.lol

  4. Came over from Casey's blog and just wanted to say I love how content you are with where your life is! I'm a soon-to-be-21-yrd in college, and while I love life right now, I look forward to when I'll be married + a mom. Hoping to love my 30s as much as you do. :)

    1. Well enjoy your 20s first ;) there's a lot of sweet time to be had!

  5. We're almost Birthday twins! crazy! thanks for reading ;) happy birthday!